I was the wife of Mark Anthony Anumah. Mark was a unique and great companion. He understood marriage as a covenant relationship between two covenant people so that God could be the apex of the triangle where the married partners form the base. He saw me above the wife of the world, a co-heir in God’s kingdom (1 Peter 3:7), in the 15 years that we were married before the Lord took him to Himself on the 9th of September 2009.
Mark saw marriage relationship as a big responsibility towards God who must be pleased. He often said “it is not about me or you, it is about God”. He treated me as an equal since we were co-heirs in God’s kingdom and lived his marriage life bearing in mind all the timethe directive of Saint Paul in Ephesians 5:21 that Christians should submit themselves to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Mark had a very stable and confident personality; my dream of becoming a Professor of Medicine was never a threat to his ego as a man, rather he was quite comfortable with it and encouraged me tremendously and generously to the level of Associate Professor of Medicine in 2007 in Ahmadu Bello University Zaria, 2 years before his death.
The wind suddenly blew the candle off. Mark’s death came suddenly like a thunderbolt at night and ruthlessly parted us, lacerating my heart tearing a gaping hole in my spirit, making me feel alone and my whole basis for living all washed away. This tearing asunder took place at such a deep level that no superficial human therapy could bring about healing. The healing love of God gradually worked in me (Halleluyah). He gradually let me know that nothing should separate me from his love, not even the death of MARK (Romans 8:35-39).